Our default orientation to life is "results first" 

We might give an after thought to "enjoying the process."

I am an avid reader of personal growth books. Over 99% of them focus on how to get some result better, how to do it faster, how to pack more into your life, how to be more effective and efficient, how to get that brass ring. More, faster, better. All in service to Next, the you that's going for a better future.

"Results" is the lead horse in our lives, with most of us unaware that any other lead horse might be possible


The "results" horse is a good and necessary horse. But, as the lead horse, it will always leave us unfulfilled. 

Robert Frost expressed this so poignantly in his poem:

“The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.”

-Robert Frost (American poet, 1874-1963)

Let us instead view our life as a buffet


There will always be more to do than we could ever do. As a buffet we are happy to have all the different food to select from, but we focus on just putting enough on our plate so we can "enjoy the process" and be fulfilled as we dine alone or with others. 

Let's learn to do that with life itself. Choose just enough to accomplish or go for so that you can easily enjoy the processes and the journey of your life. 

Survival is handled


After you have enough to eat, everything else is a game. Make sure you're playing a game that you love, including its downs as well as its ups. If you've put results as primary, you'll only be enjoying the game when you're "winning."

If you notice, "there are too many things to do," it's a danger signal that you haven't designed and implemented your life as a buffet.

See the doer and the planner, under promising, and buffers. See also lifestyle first, results second.