Wise words? You decide...
IN A FEW WORDS
When a child throws a temper tantrum, we recognize it as such: an attempt to get their way through anger and blame. If we are wise, we will listen and even sympathize, but we will not reinforce their behavior by defensiveness and/or by indulging it.
Many of us, however, are not so adept at recognizing adult temper tantrums, when adults use blame or threat of blame (sometimes called guilt-pushing) as a method to dominate another and get their way. We do not choose courage to listen and even sympathize, without indulgence or defensiveness. Instead, we often defend or cave in, training others to use temper tantrums again and again with us in the future. Why shouldn't they since you've trained them so well?!