My Life and Your Life

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To have a role model is not something I believe in. Rather, I choose to find admirable traits in others and examine their cautionary tales. By learning from the experiences of others, I gain a wealth of knowledge that I can apply to my own life in a unique way.

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I don't want to impose my way of living on you. I don't advise you use me as a role model. Instead, I am honored if my stories can suggest some valuable principles that can shape your own life. This section of AskDwightHow is different from the rest as it uses my own life experiences to illustrate important principles in a personal and relatable way. Enjoy the journey!

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I am not, and yet...

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Karaoke play tools

 

• King Of The Mountain-1952 (3:50)​

• Crazy Dad-1954 (4:06)

• No Kids, My Life-1956 (3:39)

• First Book To Open My Eyes-1959 (3:55)

• Genius Within-1961 (2:40)

• How Do Sex And Life Fix-1963 (2:49)

• My Sabbatical-1963 (3:08)

• Draft Dodger: It's My Life-1966 (3:52)

• Questions Of Loyalty-1966 (2:39)

• Career Finally Found After Ten Years-1967 (3:05)

• Retirement At Twenty-Four-1968 (3:34)

• Still A Virgin, Got The Snip-1969 (2:54)

• Love I Wouldn't Let Begin-1970 (3:37)

• Moonlight And Momentum-1972 (4:31)

• Called To Coach-1987 (3:04)

• Joe Was Joe-1989 (3:16)

• Escape From Darkness-1994 (5:18)

• Courage To Walk Away-1996 (3:20)

• Deadly Identity Trap-1997 (3:46)

• Holy Moly And Jeepers Weepers-1998 (2:58)

• House Of Good And Bad Noise-2000 (4:05)

• Life Teachers: Carnegie To Katie-2001 (3:45)

• Outrage To Trust-2001 (2:54)

• With Her Beside Me-2003 (4:19)

• Lose A Job And Dance With The Future (3:25)

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Parables from my life

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• WWII in Guam-1945

• I blew up the world to help with me pain-1948

• A Killer At Eight Years Old-1952  (+ karaoke suite)

• Gang "raped" on the bus-1953

• My Father is Crazy-1954 (+ karaoke suite)

• Father Told Me Masturbation Was Bad-1955

• "I will never have children," I told everyone-1956  (+ karaoke suite)

• Will You Wait Until I Am Old Enough To Marry You?-1957

• How I Became A Libertarian at 14-1958

• "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - the first book that changed my life-1959 (+ karaoke suite)

• Episcopal minister helps solve the problem of who really knows the truth-1959 

• Ask the mayor for permission to raise a baby lion-1960

• Mistakes my mother made even though I had won the mother lottery-1960 

• Thomas Hardy teaches me a life lesson in sharing openly-1961 

• Biology "Teacher Of The Day"-1961

• My geometry teacher told me I had made a fundamental math discovery-1961 (+ karaoke suite)

• So blaming other students who break in line that I go to see Principal Caldwell-1961 

• I learned a simple way to become a student government representative-1963

• Surprising by "Black Like Me"-1963 

• The College Chaplain Is My Devil's Advocate To Vet a New Life Decision-1963 (+ karaoke suite)

• I Go Searching For Kids In The Neighborhood Because I Miss Them-1963

• I Stupidly Stood Up For My Convictions-1963

• Conversations with Aiko: Back (1963) to the Future (2024) (+ karaoke suite)

• Kinsey, My Sex Education, And Eight Years Of Guilt-1964 

• My First Broken Heart: Oh, Donna!-1963

• Seduced And I Was Willing: So Taboo-1964

• Lost Alone In Savage Gulch With A Nine-Shot 22 Revolver-1964 

• Dodging the draft-1966 (+ karaoke suite)

• Marine Corps bootcamp battalion commander calls on Private Minkler-1966 (+ karaoke suite)

• Minkler gets righteous and gets his tooth broken-1966 

• Private first class Minkler calls on Marine Corps Reserve battalion commander-1967 (+ karaoke suite)

• One of my favorite beliefs bites the dust after spending my savings on EPSILON-1968

• I get taught a needed lesson in manners-1968

• My naivety almost destroyed my relationship with my best friend-1968 

• Retired since I was 24-1968 (+ karaoke suite)

• Helping A Friend Out Ended Our Relationship-1969

• I realized that I was basing my happiness on my ability to move a juggernaut-1969 

• Courage Bites the Dust Again: Even Though She Was Ready-1969

• My "High Moral Standards" Had Disappeared-1969

• How I Lost My First Girlfriend After One Date=1969

• Still A Virgin & I Got A Vasectomy-1969 (+ karaoke suite)

• "I'm better than those other guys. Why do they have a girlfriend and I don't"-1970 (+ karaoke suite)

• How I finally got my first girlfriend-1970 

• A Tennesse Girl Surprises Me-1970

• Learning from December 11th, 1972 (+ karaoke suite)

• The Ecstasy And The Terror: Beyond Reality-1972

• The Est Training And The World of Zombies-1972

• The Return Of The Zombies-1973

• The problems of falling in love with two (or more) women at the same time-1976 

• Discovering The Joys Of The Speechless Child-1976

• A transformation: from hard life to an easy one by talking with my child-1977

• My Mother Didn't Leave My Father: The Biggest Regret Of My Life-1979

• Deciding In Five Minutes To Move From New York City To Arizona-1979

• How I changed my mind from being polyamorous to looking for "the one"-1981 

• Selling "The Magical Poet" for a $50,000 upfront payment before royalties-1984 

• State of New York comes after me and wife for a $90,000+ jeopardy tax assessment-1984

• Helping My Mother Walk Out On My Father-1984

• Negotiating the property settlement between my mother and father-1985

• Blind For An Afternoon In San Francisco-1986

• A discovery of a life time (guaranteed promises) and a new career-1987 (+ karaoke suite)

• "OMG, if we don't come up with $10,000, we're going to lose our home"-1987 

• My car mechanic never returns my car on time and it's okay with me-1989 (+ karaoke suite)

• My wife tells me "I'm just going through the motions with our marriage"-1991 

• Changing my family name from Minkler to GoldWinde-1994 

• Escape From Darkness: Three Months Of Depression-1994 (+ karaoke suite)

• How I barely dodged the biggest bullet of my life by "being a good guy"-1995 

• Bedroom drama: my wife calls the police-1995 

• Hanging Up The Phone On My Wife Eight Time In One Week-1995

• Forty Days: Will The Profligate Husband Return-1995

• The biggest choice of courage of my entire life: "becoming a bad guy"-1996 (+karaoke suite)

• What Do I Want For My Birthday?-1996

• My identity could have killed me by prohibiting me from seeing a dentist-1997 (+ karaoke suite)

• A 40-Day Odyssey Staying With 18 Different Homestays In Japan-1997

• How I got myself to ask and beautiful woman for her number-1998 (+ karaoke suite)

• Three Amazing Holiday Months In Hiroshima With More Money In My Bank At The End-1998

• My girlfriend leaves me and I cry everyday for five weeks-1998 

• Deciding In Five Minutes To Leave My Country-1999

• My housemates are disgusted with my girlfriend's sounds-2000 (+ karaoke suite)

• Friend Won't Confront Noisy Guest-2001

• Life Teachers: Carnegie to Byron Katie-2001 (+karaoke suite)

• Danger Stranger To My Best Friend-2001 (+ karaoke suite)

• How I finished my 700-page book-2004 (+ karaoke suite)

• Moving to Kunming in two? three? four? months?- 2010

• How had chose between two women-2021

• AI Will Replace You Soon-2025 (+ karaoke suite)

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