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What Chinese are saying about NEI or 中国学生解释 NEI (new January 18, 2022)

My Destiny (new January 16, 2022)

Michael Buehrle (new January 15, 2022)

So what? (new January 14, 2022)

Don't you dare celebrate that result! (new January 13, 2022)

You or the rat: who is more curious? (new January 12, 2022)

Do you avoid confrontation? (new January 11, 2022)

What's Old (updated January 11, 2022)

Good boundaries: the basics (revised January 11, 2022) 

Time and I (new January 10, 2022)

Evolution of the alphabet (new January 9, 2022)

From the Katie's mouth (new January 8, 2022)

How you became a victim (new January 7, 2022)

Are you living in the dark? (new January 6, 2022)

You have no rights (translated William Zeng January 6, 2022)

Noise: a Flaw in Human Judgment (new January 5, 2022)

Who said that?! (revised January 5, 2022)

Books that have made me (revised January 5, 2022)

Borrowing from the future: a toxic habit (new January 4, 2022)

Blind for a day (new January 3, 2022)

What's Old (oldie, but goodie January 3, 2022)

Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts (new January 2, 2022)

Help! What should I do next? (revised-now 423 topics January 2, 2022)

Two-Oh!-Two-Two (new January 1, 2022)

Happiness is the purpose of your life (revised January 1, 2022)

Are you a trained flea? (new December 31, 2021)

How I finished writing and publishing my 700-page book (revised December 31, 2021)

Enter this VR exercise app for integrity (new December 30, 2021)

You have no rights (new December 29, 2021)

What's Old (revised December 29, 2021)

Control or influence? (new December 28, 2021)

The Daily Dozen: for energy and vitality (new December 27, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: the HOGAB is addictive (revised December 27, 2021)

Claiming the power of "no" (new December 26, 2021)

Help! What should I do next? (revised-now 407 topics December 25, 2021)

Acknowledgments (revised December 25, 2021)

First time user (revised December 25, 2021)

The shame of gang "rape"-1955 (new December 24, 2021)

What's Old (new December 23, 2021)

"Mama, Daddy's crazy"-1954 (new December 22, 2021)

How do you use and abuse time (new December 21, 2021)

Making friends with fear and pain (new December 20, 2021)

The fisherman meets St. Peter (new December 19, 2021)

Deep Awakening Renewal (new December 18, 2021)

Philosophical Musings (revised December 18, 2021)

Help! What should I do next? (revised December 18, 2021)

Writing blank checks: a toxic habit (new December 17, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised December 16, 2021)

Marriage: when to stay and when to leave (new December 15, 2021)

New Ethics of Integrity (revised December 15, 2021)

Old Ethics of Sacrifice (revised December 15, 2021)

Contrasting the New Ethics with the Old Ethics (revised December 15, 2021)

Your most dangerous cognitive bias (new December 14, 2021)

External Problem Bias (new December 14, 2021)

Key to unshakeable self-esteem (new December 13, 2021)

You cannot have courage (new December 12, 2021)

Courage for me is not courage for you (new December 11, 2021)

The New Ethics (revised December 11, 2021)

Help! What should I do next? (new December 10, 2021)

Eight years old and killed a boy?-1953 (new December 9, 2021)

Memories from 6 and 7 years old-1952 (revised December 9, 2021)

"How to live your life" in 500 words (new December 8, 2021)

Goodbye, America-Hello, Japan-1999 (new December 7, 2021)

Factbelief or Fatebelief? (new December 6, 2021)

Are you a do-aholic? (new December 4, 2021)

A major life breakthrough-1976 (new December 3, 2021)

Avoiding risk can be risky (revised December 2, 2021)

Confidence (revised December 1, 2021)

How virtues are not really virtues (video) (new November 30, 2021)

A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work (new November 29, 2021)

Toxic words: maybe and perhaps (video) (new November 27, 2021)

Are you a martyr? (new November 26, 2021)

The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain (new November 25, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Kunming beckons: cutting my working holiday short (new November 24, 2021) 

What's the year in the USA? (new November 23, 2021)

Life is your buffet (revised November 22, 2021)

Quitaverance: knowing when to quit (revised November 19, 2021)

OOI toolkit (revised November 18, 2021)

Trust (revised November 17, 2021)

Laddle Rat Rotten Hut (new November 16, 2021)

Chairs need four legs (new November 15th, 2021)

World map: more accurate but strange (new November 14th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Things and people that make me curious (new November 9th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Cold snap! What to do? (new November 8th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-You get to captionize the photos (new November 7th, 2021)

Memories from 7 and 8 years old-1952 (new November 10th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-My favorite elevator music...and more! (new November 6th, 2021)

Women's rights around the world: a chart (new November 9th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Walmart, Yesteryear glories, and Banquet of 100 insects (continued November 5th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Sleuthing for an interpreter (continued November 4th, 2021)

Odyssey 23-Come visit with the milk-tea girls (continued November 3rd, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A slower day, but some interesting photos (continued November 2nd, 2021)

Odyssey 23-First working day of my working holiday (continued November 1st, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 31, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 30, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 29, 2021)

Getting political at age 14-1959 (new October 29, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 28, 2021)

Your dance betwixt the limited and the limitless (new October 27, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 26, 2021)

Linerita: are you using this word daily? (new October 25, 2021)

Linerita (new October 25, 2021)

Linerita flop (new October 25, 2021)

Linerita success (new October 25, 2021)

Keeping up with the Gates (new October 23, 2021)

Courage to accept a lie (video) (new October 23, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (continued October 22, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: stories (revised October 21, 2021)

Energy to rely on: a nearer-term compelling future (new October 20, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: kids and cats (revised October 19, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: how you can do it (revised October 14, 2021)

Odyssey 23-A working holiday in Jianshui (new October 13, 2021)

Come along with me (new October 13, 2021)

I miss my friend (new October 12, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: Leaving the HOGAB (revised October 11, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: The Way Out (revised October 10, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: The HOGAB is addictive (revised October 9, 2021)

Our purpose and mission (revised October 9, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: Outside the HOGAB (revised October 8, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: You and Your machinery (revised October 7, 2021)

Unknown third way (new October 6, 2021)

Disowning your child (new October 5, 2021)

ACI toolkit (revised October 5, 2021)

Crying over the cookies you don't have (new October 4, 2021)

Final Exit (new October 3, 2021)

Quitaverance: knowing when to quit (new October 2, 2021)

Quitting: the unacknowledged virtue (new October 1, 2021)

Asserter or accommodater: which are you? (new September 30, 2021)

Chutzpah Sales Approach-get the job you want (new September 29, 2021)

Discovering that people are amazing (revised September 28, 2021)

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Second Edition: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change (new September 27, 2021)

Selfishness or Altruism: a dialogue with a Christian friend (revised September 27, 2021)

Cognitive Bias Codex (new September 26, 2021)

At six years old, he's dying (new September 25, 2021)

Toxic word: busy (video) (new September 25, 2021)

How I did not feel taken advantage of (revised September 24, 2021)

Is it selfish? Is it altruistic? (revised September 23, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised September 22, 2021)

Precrastination (new September 21, 2021)

Are you dying to look good? (new September 20, 2021)

Fun stuff (revised September 18, 2021)

Undoing stress (video) (new September 17, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised September 16, 2021)

Problems: inner and outer (revised September 16, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised September 15, 2021)

Best sex positions ever (revised September 15, 2021)

Lingum (new September 15, 2021)

Yoni (new September 15, 2021)

Daily Dozen (new September 15, 2021)

Daily Dozen: two are beans and groats (new September 14, 2021)

The Fairyland Dialogue (new September 13, 2021)

Partnership Conversation (revised September 11, 2021)

Is it hard? (new September 10, 2021)

Undoing shoulds: costs and risks of living in the HOGAB (revised September 10, 2021)

Maxims for Thinking Analytically-my notes (new September 9, 2021) 

Fun Stuff (revised September 9, 2021)

Myth-busting: healthy foods are costly (new September 8, 2021)

Groats will float your boats (video) (new September 8, 2021)

Keeping fit in 3 minutes a week (video) (new September 7, 2021)

Process First (new September 6, 2021)

Personal Ecology (new September 6, 2021)

Toxic words: what are they? (video) (new September 6, 2021)

Undoing stress (revised September 4, 2021)

All story actors are HOGAB union members (new September 3, 2021)

Next-Others Alliance (new September 3, 2021)

Now-Oneself Alliance (new September 3, 2021)

Problems (continued September 2, 2021)

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most- my notes (new September 1, 2021)

Problems (continued August 31, 2021)

Problems (new August 30, 2021)

Can't you see his long nose? (new August 27, 2021)

Toxic words: hard and difficult (video) (new August 27, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (continued August 26, 2021 - section on lying)

"The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't" - my notes (new August 25, 2021)

Undoing frustration (new August 24, 2021)

You will always be okay (new August 23, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (continued August 21, 2021)

Factbeliefs and Fatebeliefs (video) (new August 21, 2021)

Gift of listening to others powerlessly (new August 20, 2021)

"Build it and they will come": NO-1968 (new August 19, 2021)

"Curious?: Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life" - my notes 

(new August 18, 2021)

Telling strangers, "I'm hungry"-2009 (new August 17, 2021)

All for one and one for all (new August 16, August 16, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (continued August 14, 2021)

Is your life always "on call"? (new August 13, 2021)

Dancing with the Cinnamon Girl (video) (new August 13, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised August 12, 2021)

Drugs (video) (new August 12, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (revised August 11, 2021)

Bragging: you saw it here first (new August 10, 2021)

How long before you give up? (new August 9, 2021)

Are you a flame fanner? (new August 6, 2021)

Four steps of courage (video) (new August 6, 2021)

Prejudice is not black and white (new August 5, 2021)

Q&A August, 2021 (new August 5, 2021)

Joining the Marines to avoid the war-1966 (new August 4, 2021)

Beware of anecdotes (new August 3, 2021)

Why is "why" a toxic word (new August 2, 2021)

Problem (new August 2, 2021)

How Not to Diet-my notes (new July 30, 2021)

Progoals (new July 29, 2021)

Amazon book on courage (revised July 29, 2021)

Seventy minutes that changed my life (new July 28, 2021)

The One-Minute Workout-my notes (new July 27, 2021)

Secrets to looking good (new July 26, 2021)

14.24: the key to your life (revised July 24, 2021)

Why do the Oneself-Others wars continue? (revised July 24, 2021)

Snippets from the 1st grade-1950 (new July 23, 2021)

Toxic word: lazy (video) (new July 23, 2021)

Are positive expectations good? (new July 22, 2021)

Regrets you would have? (new July 21, 2021)

Glossary: knowing what we mean (revised July 20, 2021)

Plan (new July 20, 2021)

Pleasure (new July 20, 2021)

Pleasure-Plan Integrity (new July 20, 2021)

Victim (new July 20, 2021)

Courage (revised July 20, 2021)

Anatomy of Integrity (new July 19, 2021)

Persistence on steroids (new July 16, 2021)

Dancers around the world-1 (video) (new July 16, 2021)

Dancers around the world-2 (video) (new July 16, 2021)

Why does it rain on you? (new July 15, 2021)

Toxic words: have to and must (video) (new July 15, 2021)

Doer and the Guesstimater (revised July 14, 2021) -check the end for  the revisions

D&G (new July 14, 2021)

A big failure: my poems died-1987 (42-43) (new July 13, 2021)

Lying for the greater good (new July 12, 2021)

Now + Next: Being Whole (new, July 10, 2021)

Toxic Words: Those Big Six (video) (new, July 10, 2021)

Doer and the guesstimater (revised, July 9, 2021)

What do women and men want? (revised July 8, 2021)

Undoing jealousy (revised July 7, 2021)

Assessment (new July 5, 2021)

Judgment (new July 5, 2021)

Running a water-tight ship (revised July 5, 2021)

Do we need guilt and shame? (new July 4, 2021)

Old Ethics (new July 4, 2021)

New Ethics (new July 4, 2021)

Attachment (new July 4, 2021)

Guilt cf. Shame (new July 4, 2021)

How often do you disrespect God? (new July 2, 2021)

Guidelines for being selfish and altruistic (new July 1, 2021)

Bufferitus is pandemic (new June 30, 2021)

Bufferitus (new June 30, 2021)

Off topic: a fun, easy way to learn a language (new June 29, 2021)

Off topic (new June 29, 2021)

What a young Chinese woman learned about strangers (new June 28, 2021)

Applause-Tracy Chen (new June 29, 2021)

Problem with words (new June 25, 2021)

What others are saying about this site (new June 24, 2021)

My mother came when she wanted to-1922 (new June 23, 2021)

Whine List (revised June 22, 2021)

Two hands: why not use them both? (revised June 21, 2021)

Competition for victimhood (video) (revised June 20, 2021)

Getting ready for sex: a vasectomy-1969 (new June 19, 2021)

Sloppy, tasty, quick, healthy (video) (new June 18, 2021)

Frank Jorgensen (new June 17, 2021)

Temper tantrum by Dwight (new June 17, 2021)

How to interrupt yourself (revised June 16, 2021)

Give him three things to get everything (new June 15, 2021)

Men are here just for you (new June 15, 2021)

You too can understand women (new June 15, 2021)

XXI toolkit (revised June 15, 2021)

Love is risky (revised June 14, 2021)

Lucky Life (new June 13, 2021)

The eyes have it (revised June 13, 2021)

RAFTS (revised June 12, 2021)

Shape your home to shape your life (with video) (revised June 5, 2021)

Undoing something (revised June 4, 2021)

Undoing procrastination (revised June 3, 2021)

Small celebrations (revised June 2, 2021)

Ten-minute cognitive workout (revised June 2, 2021)