NNI TOOLKIT
ways to create and maintain
Now-Next Integrity

The wars, battles, and skirmishes

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The ongoing wars, battles, and skirmishes between the Now and Next constitute the most fundamental problem of humanity. See Now and Next for a full depiction of the carnage this creates.

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Creating peace and cooperation within by creating Now-Next Integrity

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The tools in this toolkit, singly and in combination, create peace and cooperation between Now and Next. They support and maintain Now-Next Integrity.  

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Two types of integrity 

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Total integrity consists of two fundamental types: NNI and OOI (Oneself-Others integrity) working together. NNI is more fundamental than OOI since achieving OOI is more problematic unless you have first achieved some level of Now-Next Integrity. Creating and maintaining both types often require unresisting your fear and choosing courage.

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You can find all the tools for NNI Integrity on this page, as well as the FFI toolkit, for Frightened-Fearless Integrity, and the NFS toolkit, which covers integrity issues regarding nutrition, fitness, and sleep.

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Every tool in the NNI toolkit is also a tool in the OOI toolkit (yet are not explicitly included there).

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Check out this list of common conflicts between Now and Next to know the full depth of our lack of integrity.

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The tools to support Now-Next Integrity flow out of answering the fundamental question, "How can Now and Next both be agreeable and happy (in a given context)?" The following links detail the various tools that you can use to create and maintain this integrity.

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Problems that will disappear

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The following issues (problems) will be minimized or more likely disappear as you create and maintain Now-Next integrity.

• Procrastination

• Perfectionism

• Lack of persistence (giving up when it would be better not to give up)

• Getting distracted

• Lack of patience

• Feeling pressured

• Feeling overwhelmed

• Stress

• Breaking promises with yourself

• Not eating for energy, health, and good weight

• Not keeping physically fit

• Not staying well-rested, with enough sleep

• Breaking promises with others

• Resistance to planning and goal setting

• Not following through on your plans

• Not having enough time

• Not having enough money

• Waiting for things to be over

• Upset when you don't get a result you went for

• Feeling things are taking too long

• Getting discouraged

• Feeling you're behind on things

• Over promising

• The urgent often pushing out the important

• Not having time to take care of yourself

• Feeling that life is meaningless

• Feeling like it's never enough

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Now-Next Integrity should be your #1 priority, right!?

Check out your current Now-Next integrity EQ:

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The tools below will move your NNI EQ toward 100%

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Prerequisite tools

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• FFP toolkit

• FFI toolkit

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Contextual tools

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• 100% responsible (take 1)

• 100% responsible (take 2)

• 126 problems: how to fix them

• Amazing benefits of short-range thinking

• Anatomy of Integrity

• Are you getting ready to leave (life)?

• Are you going in the wrong direction?

• Are you surviving?

• Avoiding risk can be risky

• Being present (slowing down)

• Benefits of time buffers (8 of them!)

• Better than self-discipline

• Beware of anecdotes

• Big missing how

• "Busy" is your problem (video 1:44)

• Can't you see his long nose?

• Chairs need four legs

• Common Now-Next conflicts

• "Confused about my job options" (video 24:28)

• Creativity

• Crying over the cookies you don't have

• Curtis with the curious tale

• "Did I make the wrong choice?"

• Disowning your child

• Do you have enough time?

• Do we need guilt and shame?

• Does your foundation keep collapsing?

• Don't mistaken your mistakes

• Don't you dare celebrate that result!

• Drugs (video)

• Finished or complete?

• Getting smart about ethics (video 1:18)

• Getting paid twice (the only way to play)

• "Goals are killing my happiness" (video 12:24)

• Gratitude: for something I bet you didn't think about

• "Helpful 'shoulds' and trolls" (video 26:19 Google Docs)

• How often do you disrespect God?

• "How to live your life" in 500 words

• How virtues are not really virtues (video 3:46)

• How you became a victim

• "Ignorance is bliss?" (video 25:42)

• "I should be persistent" (video 17:44)

• "I will never have children," I told everyone-1956

• "I'm thinking but not doing" (video 14:49)

• "Impulsive decisions cost me a lot" (video 19:55)

• "I will try" - a dialogue

• Is being responsible irresponsible?

• Is it hard to do it the easy way?

• Is your life always "on call"?

• Joys of accomplishment

• Just asking the question

• Kids and cats: our gigantic gurus

• Learning from nature (sex, food, and orgasms)

• Learning (easy, effective, and fun)

• My life failures and mistakes

• Life is your buffet

• Life's a game. Did you forget?

• Lifestyle first; results second

• Linerita: are you using this word daily?

• Lost in maybe-maybe land

• Next showing respect to Now

• Now and Next: an overview

• Now and Next need each other

• Now + Next: Being Whole

• Passion first, how/results second (video)

• Perfectionistic standards (video) 

• Persistence on steroids

• Problem with words

• Problems: inner and outer

• Process First

• Regrets you would have?

• Remove eleven things to do

• Seven fundamental ways for Now to be happy

• "In Shadowed Halls of Heart and Mind" by Aiko

• So what?

• Thank God it'll take a long time

• "Things should stay the way I like" (video 11:33)

• Time management is a toxic phrase

• Toxic Words: Those Big Six (video)

• Turn around: Wrong way

• Two hands: why not use them both?

• What if you lost an arm?

• Who's your best friend?

• Why does it rain on you? 

• Why is "why" a toxic word?

• You are a civil war

• You are not selfish ENOUGH

• You are Siamese twins (conjoined twins)

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Nutrition, exercise, and sleep tools​ (essential for supporting Now-Next integrity)

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Action tools (other than nutrition, exercise, and sleep)​

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• 10X your income over the weekend

• 1000+ habits for the price of one

• 28:48 - The first step for process first

• Bufferitus is pandemic

• "Acting for my dream is hard" (video 12:39)

• Are positive expectations good?

• Are you a do-aholic?

• "Beijing or Chengdu: I can't decide" (video 20:34)

• Borrowing from the future: a toxic habit

• Breakout 23 (a mini holiday)

• Bufferitus is pandemic

• Buffers (staying away from the cliffs)

• Catalytic Companions: so each once found 

• Can you predict one minute ahead? 

• ChatGPT: Now and Next play together

• Chutzpah Sales Approach (get the job you want)

• Claiming the power of "no"

• Come dance with me; just for fun (video 0:50)

• Confidence

• "Confidence I lost for my dream" (video 19:55)

• Confused: a toxic word (video 1:31)

• Control or influence?

• Courage

• Courage-or-not is a Now-Next issue

• De-prioritize results for more results

• "Delaying the little stuff" (video 16:30)

• "Details get dropped out" (video 15:58)

• Distinguish actions from results

• Divide and conquer: just 29 minutes to a clear desk

• Detoxing: comfortable (video 1:15)

• Detoxing: doing your best (video 1:26)

• Detoxing: forgive (video 3:48)

• Detoxing: giver and taker (video 1:01)

• Detoxing: have a right (video 1:14)

• Detoxing: have to, must (video 1:32)

• Detoxing: those big six (video 1:11)

• Detoxing: weird and strange (video 1:00)

• Do it badly

• Do you know that one day has 24 hours?

• Do you litter in your home? 

• Doing it with others

• Doer and the guesstimater

• Dramatizations to inspire both Next and Now

• Enchanting

• Energy to rely on: a nearer-term compelling future

• Enough time, money, and power

• "Even as a doctor, is life meaningful?" 

• Extrapolation: for better life decisions

• Fairyland Dialogue

• Final Exit

• Five-minute trial

• Forget more, succeed more

• From four paths, we choose the worst

• Fun = less un-fun

• Giving Up

• Going with "good enough"

• Gong Bath Meditation

• Good fences

• Gratitude now

• Having enough time for everything

• "Help me with my procrastination!" (video 20:30)

• "Holidays should not end" (video 18:31)

• How I finished my 700-page book-2004

• How your Now can be wiser than your Next

• How long before you give up?

• "How to plan to get it all done?" (video 24:40)

• Is a science of ethics possible? (video 1:39)

• Is it hard?

• "I am too busy" (video 16:06)

• "I should listen to the teacher" (video 17:10)

• Kick starting a mental habit

• KtoK Checklist

• Lackadaisically becoming a millionaire

• Maintain your daily foundation: compare to my 28 covenants

• "Michael wants to stop procrastinating" (video 17:48)

• "Mistakes: I hate them!" (video 12:24)

• Mobile phone mania: Tracy's problem (video 20:26)

• "Money honey: I need more" (video 24:48)

• Mood and energy management

• "More money is what I have to have" (video 18:21)

• Multi-tasking for fun and results

• Objectifying others shows wisdom

• Patience

• Persistence

• Power of now

• Precrastination

• The primo habit

• "Procrastination is licking me" (video 10:51)

• "Procrastination is my big problem" (video 16:09)

• Progoals

• Promise: beware its toxicity

• Quitaverance: knowing when to quit

• Quitting: the unacknowledged virtue

• "Regret and Worry make me unhappy now" (video 26:16)

• "Regret for all I did not do" (video 13:07)

• "Scared to accept a promotion" (video 15:01)

• Screaming like a kid

• Shape your home to shape your life

• Small celebrations

• Step by step

• Stephen Covey and the big rocks (video 10:05)

• "Steven wants to be a successful non-smoker" (video 15:47)

• Ten-Minute Cognitive Workout

• "Too busy is my problem" (video 17:44)

• Too much gratitude (video 4:30)

• "Too tired to do what I want" (video 26:17)

• Toxic words: maybe and perhaps (video 1:33)

• Toxic words: doing your best (video 1:26)

• "Tracy wants tips for giving a presentation to middle school students about their future" (video 24:32)

• My Trusty Timers

• Turnabouts

• Under promising

• Undoing busyness

• Undoing depression

• Undoing disappointment

• Undoing efficiency

• Undoing expectations

• Undoing fear

• Undoing frustration

• Undoing guilt (and self-criticism, regret, or remorse -with audio 3:02)

• Undoing impatience

• Undoing lazy

• Undoing lazy (video 1:05)

• Undoing perfectionism

• Undoing pressure

• Undoing procrastination

• Undoing seriousness

• Undoing shoulds (the full package)

• Undoing something (doing nothing)

• Undoing stress

• Undoing stress (video 1:11)

• Unproving

• Undoing worry

• What does lazy mean? (video 1:05)

• What's the full idea of process first?

• Whine list (change your mood)

• Writing blank checks: a toxic habit