Ways to create and maintain 

Now-Next integrity

The ongoing wars, battles, and skirmishes between the Now and Next constitute the most fundamental problem of humanity. See Now and Next for a full depiction of the carnage this creates.

The tools in this toolkit, singly and in combination, create peace and cooperation between Now and Next. They support and maintain NNI (Now-Next Integrity).  

Total integrity consists of two fundamental types: NNI and OOI (Oneself-Others integrity) working together. NNI is more fundamental than OOI since achieving OOI is more problematic unless you have first achieved some level of Now-Next Integrity.

Every tool in the NNI toolkit is also a tool in the OOI toolkit (yet are not explicitly included there).

Check out this list of common conflicts between Now and Next to know the full depth of our lack of integrity.

The tools to support Now-Next integrity flow out of answering the fundamental question, "How can Now and Next both be agreeable and happy (in a given context)?" The following links detail the various tools that you can use to create and maintain this integrity.

Prerequisite tools


Contextual tools

Action tools

Tools in the queue

  • Accountability and celebration partner

  • Advance planning and realtime adjustments

  • Adventure

  • Allowing/scheduling Now time and choices

  • Anticipation

  • Asking Now if some discomfort will be okay

  • Assessing vs. judging

  • Avoiding the toxic "maybe"

  • Being patient with yourself

  • Being your own best friend and fan

  • Bringing spontaneity to structure

  • Celebrating failure

  • Change your mood and energy

  • Choosing courage

  • Choosing courage to take care of yourself with others

  • Clarity about the boundaries/agreements between Now and Next

  • Clarity about cost with profit (context)

  • Clarity about what Next wants; clarity about what Now wants

  • Complete or finished?

  • Consider It Done (a protocol to guarantee promises to yourself)

  • Curiosity

  • Curiosity, play, adventure (CAP)

  • Declaring certain Now indulgences off the table

  • Dismantling a belief

  • Doing it with...

  • Doing the difficult first (game it)

  • Doing nothing until Now and Next can agree

  • Drugs

  • Enfolding costs

  • Enjoying the process

  • Environment, environment, environment

  • Fearing the dangerous (fear cf. danger)

  • Creating freedom (the paradox)

  • The function and dysfunction of comparisons

  • Finding a different way(s) for Next to get what he or she wants

  • Future-paced consulting with Now

  • Gamify it

  • Getting Now to stop his or her activity

  • Getting over the Now hump

  • Golden handcuffs (monkey fist cuffs story)

  • Good news: you'll never be caught up (context)

  • How NNI provides the foundation for OOI

  • Just pay time now

  • Judgment or assessment (context)

  • Learning from the cat

  • Learning to enjoy the game/process of delayed gratification

  • Learning to nurture and enjoy hunger

  • Life inspirations (context)

  • Lighten up (context)

  • Living a tight action-thinking feedback loop

  • Listener (having a)

  • Lower your standards

  • Making good decisions (opportunity costs, avoiding one-way streets)

  • Up to something bigger than yourselves (yes...but...)

  • Melding process and results into one

  • Mini-rewards

  • Mirror to soul: being your own best friend and fan

  • Mood and environment may affect Now-Next alignment

  • NEAT (Non-Exercise Activity Thermogenesis)

  • Seeing the negative in the positive (context)

  • Next creating a clear and compelling goal/intention

  • Now-Next partnership conversation

  • Now can feel freedom from Next getting clear

  • Nutrition, herbs, and supplements

  • Pleasure in power and the power in pleasure

  • Prudent or stupid promises

  • Quitaverance, the wisdom and courage to quit

  • Recognizing and acting on that your #1 job is to take care of yourself

  • Remembering enjoying the process as priority

  • Removing Now distractions from the environment

  • Self-coaching with a listener

  • Seven ways to Now to be happy 

  • Short feedback loop

  • Silly and wacky (being light)

  • Spend money and time of health insurance instead of sickness insurance

  • Step-by-step and showing respect to Now will work wonders for Next (context)

  • Suicide

  • The sitting judge

  • Time accounting

  • Traveling

  • Ultimate internal game (past, future, and other people)

  • Under assuming

  • Undoing confusion (clear future? risk decision? someone disapprove?)

  • Undoing identity

  • Undoing overwhelm

  • Undoing pressure

  • Undoing toleration

  • Unresisting

  • Wear some new glasses

  • What are the facts?

  • Whine list

  • A "yes" is empty without the "how"

  • Zero-based life design 

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