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The ongoing wars, battles, skirmishes, and generally adversarial relationship between the Oneself and Others constitute the second most fundamental problem of humanity. See Oneself and Others for a full depiction of the carnage this creates.

The tools in this toolkit, singly and in combination, create peace and cooperation between Oneself and Others.

Prerequisite tools

Contextual tools

Actions tools

Tools in the queue

  • Apologizing

  • Becoming the parent for yourself that you never had (context)

  • Becoming unbetrayable

  • Being more selfish is better for others (context)

  • Being your own best friend

  • Curiosity about others

  • Did you let him or her do it?

  • Distance creates beauty (a Chinese proverb)

  • Fairness (it can be dangerous to your relationship)

  • Five languages for expressing love

  • Forgiving others quickly and easily

  • Getting by giving

  • Giving by getting (how well do you let others contribute to you)

  • HISU (include tone of voice)

  • How to speak non-blame (NVC)

  • It's not about you

  • Just four: requests, promises, yes, and no

  • Knowing how you occur for others

  • Knowing you've got a great deal

  • Letting go of "it means somethings about me" (issue of powerlessness)

  • Lying

  • Occurring for others cf occurring for yourself (context)

  • Oneself and Others need each other (context)

  • Patience with others

  • Personal questions (back and forth)

  • Playing with the "law of reciprocation"

  • Put your oxygen mask on first (context)

  • The "popularity" of no response

  • Rapport

  • Religion

  • Respect cf. love (context)

  • Setting and maintaining good boundaries with others

  • Setting and environments

  • Solve Now-Next to resolve Oneself-Others

  • TLA or Together living apart (romantic)

  • Voice image: its power in relationships

  • Undoing awkwardness

  • Undoing being a victim and/or blaming others

  • Undoing betrayal

  • Undoing complaints

  • Undoing defensiveness

  • Undoing knowing (context)

  • Undoing pressure

  • Undoing revenge

  • Undoing shyness

  • Unpromising

  • What women want from men; what men want from women

  • Whose business are you in? (is it actionable?)

  • Why your selfishness is others' best friend (context)

  • Why the selfishness of others is your best friend (context)

  • Words and phrases which may stimulate defensiveness (I don't understand)