Ways to create and maintain 

Express-Emage integrity

Distinguishing EEI from OOI

Both EE conflicts and OO conflicts arise in our relationship with others. If somehow we grew up and survived totally without connection with other humans, no such conflicts would exist.

EE conflicts

EE conflicts arise when to two distinct types of desires/needs seem to conflict, and that we must choose to sacrifice one over the other. The first type, Express, is our desire and need for full self-expression, authenticity, and without self-censorship. The second type, Emage, is our desire and need to look good to others and to feel a sense of belonging with others.

OO conflicts

OO conflicts arise when our desire/need to take care of ourselves (Oneself) seems to conflict with our desire/need to take care of and support others (Others). 

Of course, in any given situation, both these issues could be at play.

Prerequisite tools

undoing fear

Contextual tools

Actions tools


Not caring what others think?

RAFTS (reluctant and frightened to share)


Undoing fear of rejection/not looking good

Undoing guilt

Undoing seriousness

Undoing shoulds

Tools in the queue

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