Yes, it feels good in the moment to blame someone and they might even change their behavior, but at what cost to them and to your relationship with them?
Yes, it may seem like you're more in control by blaming yourself (guilt), but at what cost to being your own best friend?
Yes, you might get more done by packing your schedule back-to-back, but at what cost to the quality of the results and to the enjoyment of your life?
Yes, worrying about your future might make it a little better, but at what cost to enjoying your life today?
Yes, by wearing a mask with others most of the time, they may think better of you, but at what cost to enjoying your life and being your own best friend?