Are you living in the dark?
Light can make all the difference
Have you ever had a difficult time trying to find something in the dark or in a dimly lit room, and then found it quickly and easily after turning on the lights?
Ask yourself the question, “In what areas of my life am I acting and speaking and wanting specific outcomes without turning on the lights?”
Turning on the lights
How often do you ask your mate, your children, your parents, your friends, your boss, your subordinates, your colleagues, or your clients for candid feedback on what they are thinking and feeling in response to what you are being, saying, and doing?
How often do you ask those around you how you occur for them in all the important ways that you might be occurring for them, but you're just making assumptions or you're tolerating not knowing for fear of asking? See How you occur for others.
When something doesn’t work or an area of your life isn’t working the way you want it to work, how often do you become curious about hearing feedback on what needs to be different in order for it to work the way you want it to work?
The courage to ask
Most of us, in one area of our life or another, have been living in the dark, while thinking we already know, resisting the fear of what we might feel, hear, or see if we turn on the lights.
Honor yourself for choosing courage to continuously search for the “way it is” in all the different areas of your life by turning on the lights. Then you will have the power that Robert Burns was questing after when he wrote:
“Oh would some Power the gift give us, to see ourselves as others see us.”
-Robert Burns (1759-1796, Scottish poet and songwriter)