Getting into a very touchy big issue...

Yeah, I shouldn't be careful getting into this subject with you, but I don't know how to be careful with it because I'm really Oh, and I want to say and I'm dealing with a very big issue here, you know, and I would admit in advance there are circumstances, other nuances that are not so simple for this issue, but the fundamental that I'm going to talk about is pretty god damn simple the examples I use are so pretty straightforward.

 

Her grandpa begged, "Please let me die!"

So anyway, it's about I guess I think about this just just what is it for yesterday? I think I was with a really new assistant. She's I think she's 27 and she's married just anyway. She's she just just came to my place back from the nearby hospital hospital and she said to her her 91-year-old dad, there 91-year-old granddad is in hospital you know and he went in for you know to have a cancer removed from his stomach and he can hardly hear or speak but but he says if she said that when and I guess she was there when he went to the hospital and he you know they were so communicating by writing he wrote her something he says, "Please let me die! Please let me die!" you know but you know and all the family from different parts of Vietnam are there you know and and but you know my my uh even if she was not able to go into my my assistant, you know, she's she's not, you know, there might be somebody probably is somebody in the family that I don't know how the laws are here in Vietnam that they can just at least not even have them go through the operation or check him out or do something, you know, uh to to and assist him and but but you know, they essentially forced him to have this operation and you know, it's all know everybody you understand it in some sense like why I do this shit?!

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The horror of our belief structure!

You know it's so horrible you know and um so anyway um I mean there's reasons about this has all mostly has to do with the Old Ethics of the Sacrifice and the House of Good and Bad you know when we prioritize of, you know, always keeping going and keeping going and keeping going and never give up. You know, hey, God people know when to quit, you know. It's a big problem with my mother. So, that's an issue. And then another issue is like some sort of like uh you know I don't know the whole Religious beliefs, maybe they would not particularly have that maybe here in Vietnam you know about the you know the it's you know it is not man's place to take the life that God gave him, but um it's like the purpose of life is to be happy and when you get to a point where it's no longer possible it's just pain and suffering God and you can argue. That's another issue. We can argue always argue well if you kept going. People do that with marriages. You know, we used to always argue if there could be a chance. But but nobody nobody plays if we if we're smart about playing life. We don't play that way.

 

Playing life the smart way, not the "right and wrong, self-sacrifice way" way...

We look at the the the risks this way and we you know depending upon issues and of course yes it is a one-way street to to go about you know. So, it's the biggest one of all. You know, it's basically a decision to end in the possibility of these fun games we have in life. But that's as far as I can tell, it's only the reason to be alive to enjoy the happiness and joy. And this man, you know, he's past that, you know, and it's and another reason that like there's, you know, there's the the the issue of and sorry just idea of and and the fact that the that the idea of what's Right and Wrong that is separated from cost and benefit. You know, that's the horror of it. And also that it's that the that the extent that you're in the Right and Blame thing that it just it just just destroys your sense of like of assessment of things, you know, you see the horror that that's being perpetrated right in front of our eyes, you know, and uh and you and I know that people like him care for him and they're obviously there and and maybe some of them but and maybe some of them I've heard people say they want somebody to not die for them. I mean, what's it's hard for me to understand why if somebody wants to die, but they're holding on because they can't, you know, they don't really want to live for themselves. They just don't want to upset somebody that wants them to keep living, you know.

 

I cried with happiness when my mother died...

God was sort of loving that to have somebody and you know this this also situation at least you know my mother is making you know this is the most amazing person of my life you know and and uh ever the time I came to Asia you know I always went back to be visit with her in late October of of each year and and I was I was back there in 2012 (she was 90) and and when I was there I could see I mean she was still there to the she was so much suffering and and she's even doing her persistent stuff going to to this rehab stuff and even so she should admit she she really was so uncomfortable and she still even with herself. She maybe I don't know what she just said, "Hey, I have to go there." But anyway, but but we were driving and she did she said she just said "she wanted to die." She was ready to die. And I was driving around and I said I didn't know how I would do it but I said mom I didn't know whether and say I can do it but if you if you think that I think that I can possibly help if you want to ask me ask me I'll help you know what and um so uh it turned out that three weeks later you know she's living, you know, in the mountains of Tennessee and my brother lives near my mother. He checks in on her and found my mother dead.

 

My mother was probably able to help herself die...

And um later my sister and I know some other things about we have pretty good reason to believe she helped herself die and you know she was in nursing and she was getting various medicines. I she probably know what medicines to use. "Thank God. Oh, thank God!" 

 

If my mother had asked, I would have helped her and risked going to jail...
But you know uh if she had asked me I don't know what exactly I would have done but I would I would have flown back to her you know and I would figure something out you know what you know been with her because she was still cond and to assist her you know she's been dying and um I know what I'll be is illegal. Yeah. And I know there'll be a risk, but I'd be brave. I'd be willing to tell you and and I was even just thinking I just I was going through the imagination. What if I what if it happened that way? I helped her die. So she wouldn't suffer anymore. Um and then and then uh let's suppose that I got arrested for it even in court. Uh but I don't know what what would happen but I I knew I would even go this far like so that say you know you have in the US you at least have a right to defend yourself. So I would just get up whether before a jury or a judge or something. I would say look I know what I did broke the little law. I know it you know there's no denying and if I had to do it again over again even though I was bringing it before I would do it again. Okay. And you have problem, you know, you have to jail. I understand that. Then you may feel like you're going to because I whatever reason you have, you know, people do that. And um but I would suggest to can you know look I'm not saying the law might be helpful in other circumstances, but in the circumstances, you know, my mother was in pain. and she wanted death. I love her so much. And yeah, I did it. You know, and if you want to, if you want to, if you put me in jail or whatever, I would be myself. I'll be happy to pay that for my mother so she would not suffer.

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More than 200,000,000 older people in the world (more than died in wars since 1900) today are likely waiting for death...

So um I'm going to just say some step back and say some bigger things about what's going on in the world. This is a what I want to say this is a horror that's around the world. It's a little hard to give statistics on this, but it's like, hey, this idea of like you, you know, and the way the laws are and the hospitals are and the system is everything else, some countries allow certain situations allow certain things where if you go through certain procedures, you know, that you can do things. Okay? Of course, if you could just if you just have enough control yourself and you have a way that you're able and willing to just, you know, once once you do it yourself, we have nothing they can do about it, you know. But in terms of like being allowed to help somebody, you know, in those situations, you know, and or like that whole issue and and also like being okay to die, you know, then you don't have the whole life or you know for others or least whatever life you had, you know, don't make it like don't make it like don't don't have the ending week any worse than a h is already so to speak. But but anyway, let's look at some rough statistics. I just did some research. you know, it's hard to know like in terms of I'm just talking about in terms of older in life, you know, like like you're it's like you're for most people, you know, uh it's at least today right now for most people at least way it is there there, as you said, there's a they're in a declining part of life, you know, and like they're a level of of like unhappiness or pain or suffering. Like if you ask them, hey, uh, you know, if you if you painlessly died today, uh, would you like that to happen? Like, like what what percentage or what number of people in the world right now might say yes, if that were if that were, you know, and it's hard to know, but doing a little bit of research, come up with a figure of 200 million people plus to put a lot of leeway in it plus or minus a million 200 because even in my own life I've known about at least personal at least 10 people know that were in that situation but they had the difficulty of this whole system. My grandmother's last eight years of her life was totally just hanging on and uh you know just no joy just just kept you know very alive and kept alive all those reasons you know anyway but it's it's a huge figure huge figures I mean 200 million I mean it's it's a different category but that's the number of people who've died in wars since 1901 all the people died in wars it's equal to 200 That's that's a huge and that's so that's it's so much suffering here you know we got my god people I don't know I know it's a I know you have these things about persistence you can't give up and you know and you know but and but it's you know open your eyes to listen life has to be happy nobody can dispute that, when there is no chances of it because of the pain and suffering just are not there anymore and no chance no significant chance of being got to just hey you know I know.

 

Find a way for yourself and for others you care about...

I know the the how to and specific situations it's got to be worked out you know and there details to you but the fundamentals I you know I have one more thing to say I notice you know, since Dwight treat I've come into Dwight's life, you know, his little son now, you know, and what it was happened to him. It's like he's love he's loved people before, but he's like loving people twice as much now. And by the way, I'm not just any just about anything about how much somebody cares. I don't I don't I don't think there's a problem with fundamental motivation. It's just the question of like does it how to and all that stuff, you know, but I just maybe I just was real motivated. I'm plain motivated already to just try to figure this out and we invite you to figure it out and maybe question in your own mind and before the loss or whatever gets fixed.. Thank you.