How a woman turned my "no" into a "yes"​

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As a university student, she asked me to edit an English paper

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In general, editing English papers is not something I enjoy doing. I said to her, "A part of me would like to please you by saying 'yes.' However, I don't know how I could enjoy the process of doing that for you. This is the sort of thing I normally would only do for my girlfriend...and it seems you're not my girlfriend," I joked.

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Undeterred, she listened to what I said, and made a new request​

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"Let me treat you to lunch at a place you prefer near your home. We can just chat and you can look over my paper and make a few verbal suggestions as they occur for you. How would you feel about that?"​

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She nailed it. 

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I accepted, we enjoyed lunch together and I gave her some quick feedback on her paper that she thought was quite helpful. She found a way to dovetail her needs with my needs (to enjoy the process of whatever I do).

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Creating the attitude and ability to create mutually selfish relationships

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Without this ability, relationships become either hard or non-existent.

 

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