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Undoing perfectionism

What is perfectionism?

Perfectionism is either:

  • a resisted fear that if you don't do something good enough, then someone/others will blame you and/or be disappointed in you 

  • and/or a resisted fear that if you don't do something good enough, then you might not get the results that you want.

The first step to undo perfectionism

Use undoing fear with either one or both of the following expressions: 

  • "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that others will blame me (or be disappointed in me) if I don't do this good enough!"

  • "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that I won't get the results I want if I don't do this good enough!"

Continue with the other three steps of choosing courage to undo perfectionism

The first step of choosing courage is always the undoing fear process. To consolidate your practice of undoing perfectionism, continue with the other three steps of choosing courage

As you apply all four steps of choosing courage to instances where you notice you are being perfectionistic, your habit of perfectionism will fade away.