Unproving

If you're trying to prove something...

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...then life is hard and enjoying the processes of your life becomes problematic. And, even when you get some "proof," it's never enough. There's always more you have to prove.

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What are you trying to prove?

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• Are you trying to prove that you're good enough?

• Are you trying to prove that your life is worthwhile?

• Are you trying to prove that you're a good guy?

• Are you trying to prove that you're smart or smarter than others?

• Are you trying to prove that you're always learning?

• Are you trying to prove that you're always improving and growing?

• Are you trying to prove that you're the best in your field?

• Are you trying to prove that you deserve it?

• Are you trying to prove that it's not your fault?

• Are you trying to prove you're doing your best?

• Are you trying to prove that you're lovable?

• Are you trying to prove that you're happy?

• Are you trying to prove that you're helpless?

• Are you trying to prove that you're the victim?

• Are you trying to prove that you're one of the gang?

• Are you trying to prove that you're special?

• Are you trying to prove that you're normal?

• Are you trying to prove that you're not a loser?

• Are you trying to prove that you love someone?

• Are you trying to prove that you cannot change?

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Not fun

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When you're trying to prove something, you're doing that on top of the hidden belief that you're not that already. 

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Trying to prove it will reinforce that belief. And whatever you're trying prove will never be proven enough. 

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Consequently, you will never get to believe or feel that life is your playground and everyone is your playmate or potential playmate. Life will still be hard.

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Unproving

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You can let go (step by step) of trying to prove something by undoing the fear that you're not that. 

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The fears are:

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• ...that you're not good enough

• ...that your life is not worthwhile

• ...that you're not a good guy

• ...that you're not smart enough

• ...that you're not lovable

• ...and so on

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Use undoing fear with this sentence (exemplifying one particular fear), "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that I'm not good enough!" eleven times.

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Or (with another particular fear), "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that I'm not improving."

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What if there's nothing to prove?

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