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What women may not know

about men

Broad generalizations

People are different. Men are different. Women are different. What I say below may or may not apply to any given man. Notwithstanding, these traits are broadly application to most men.

As a woman do you know that?...

  • If a woman can make a man feel powerful, respected, and admired, it's almost impossible that he won't love her and want to take care of her. Consider saying things like,

    • "How did you know that?! That's amazing!"

    • "When you put your arms around me, I feel so safe."

    • "You've become an expert on my body."

  • Men might be more sensitive to blame and nagging than are women, since their need for feeling respected can feel more intense than it might for a woman.​

  • It's important for a man to feel like he has something to do with making his woman (or any woman) happy. This is one important way they he can feel powerful. You might have heard the saying, "A happy woman makes a happy man; the reverse is not necessarily true."

  • Men are simple animals compared to women. To cite one statistic, about 70% of divorces in the USA are initiated by women. To further make this point, I'll tell you about "The Husband Store." Here's how I heard the story: 

    • A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands.
      When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:

    • You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
      the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
      from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
      CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.

    • So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
      The 1st floor sign on the door reads:
      Floor 1: These men have jobs.
      The 2nd floor sign reads:
      Floor 2: These men have jobs and love kids.
      The 3rd floor sign reads:
      Floor 3: These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking.
      "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
      She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
      Floor 4: These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with housework.
      "Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
      Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
      Floor 5: These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with housework and have a strong romantic streak.

    • She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:
      Floor 6: You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor.
      There are no men on this floor.
      This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
      Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

    • To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
      The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
      The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
      The 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited.

  • In contrast with women, if men have a personal problem, they are less likely to share it with their friends or even their woman. I suspect one reason for this is that a man's self-image is commonly attached to "solving his own problems," as a source of pride. Also, men are likely​ to think that they may not look powerful or they may lose respect if they share their problems openly. They could feel concern that sharing their problems openly with their woman may make her feel unsafe. Another factor is that men are more challenged than women in finding the right words to describe their personal problems and feelings. 

  • Men often don't understand how feeling safe, cherished, and adored are so important for their women. Women need regular, daily, and even spontaneous expressions of love and affection. Men are confused by this. "I already told you I love you. Why do you need to hear it again and again? Look at everything I already do. Isn't this enough for you?"

  • Women are often unaware of the hunger for sex that can a young man is incessantly reminded of. And most men will not openly tell a woman about all the sexual restraint they are usi