Hear me out...what do I mean by "objectify"?

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By using the word "objectify" in the title "Objectifying others shows wisdom," I am suggesting that if we treated others with the same level of intelligence and wisdom that most of us treat "objects," we would more likely, not only get preferable responses from others, but we would respond as they would prefer also. In short, we would have better relationships with others.

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Case in point. Let's imagine that your PC (a somewhat complicated object) stopped giving you the expected or desire response that you wanted. Let's even say it picked up a virus and you saw the words, "You son of a bitch!" flash across the screen.

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Wisdom would dictate curiosity. You would ask yourself,

 

• "Was there something that I did that might have brought this on?"

• "Knowing what I know about PCs and this PC in particular, is the anything I might do in order to either stop the undesired response I am getting or get the response I want?"

• "Let me think a bit and experiment with something that might help me get the responses I want."

• "It's not a bit deal. I can do a workaround or just ignore it."

• Or "I'll consult with an expert and see if they can help me figure out how get a more desired response."

 

 

What if, instead, you anthropomorphized your PC?

 

If you treated your PC as many of us treat our fellow humans, you would shut down your curiosity and likely respond with,

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• "How dare you treat me this way!"

• "After all I've done for you, you give me this shit!"

• "This is not fair."

• Or you might think of feel, "Something must be wrong with me. I can't do anything right."

• "This PC is hopeless. I'll just keep my distance to feel less hurt."

• "I'll give my PC the silent treatment so my PC can know how hurt I feel."

• "I'll tell others how my PC treated me and they'll agree with me and be on my side against my PC and other PCs that do similar things."

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Understating it, these responses would border on foolishness and insanity.

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Yet, this is how we often respond to our fellow human beings instead of the more intelligent way we respond to objects.

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Hijacked by the illusions of Good and Bad

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When dealing with others, the machinery of our mind continues to be hijacked by the illusions that seem so real as long as we're living in the House of Good and Bad.

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Our absolute believe in the ideas of good and bad, right and wrong, should and should not, fair and unfair, victims and bad guys has forced us to be in an ongoing battle within ourselves and with others. We are fighting with reality. These illusions make us lose our mind when dealing with others in contrast with us being pretty smart when dealing with objects.

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Undoing the illusions

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"When you fight with reality, you lose. But only 100% of the time." 

—Byron Katie

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“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”

—Rumi

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"The meaning of your communication is the response you get."

-NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) precept

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