Delights: D1

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My delights are adventure, play, curiosity, and connection.

 

What are yours?

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Directions: D2

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My directions are 1) bringing the New Ethics of Integrity to the world, 2) living with vitality and energy for at least another 99 years, and 3) dancing in the space of love and romance with (some) women.

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What are yours?

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Drives: D3

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My drives are the paths and journeys of adventures, play, curiosities, and connections as I chart and implement integral ways to move in my directions and toward my destinations.

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What are yours?

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Destinations: D4

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My destinations are shifting and changing, as informed by the current circumstances along with my delights, directions, and drives. For example, as I write this, I am planning a two day trip to Bogota later this week to gather additional information in order to decide clearly whether to move to Bogota or remain in Medellin. I have "small" destinations and "bigger ones." A small destination would be to exercise intensely on my stationery bicycle for 20 seconds and to complete that within the next two to three minutes.

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What are yours?

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Types of destinations

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Looking forward, destinations could also be called targets, goals, intentions, objectives, or results we're going for. Looking backwards, destinations that we've reached could be called accomplishments, achievements, successes, or victories. Destinations that we didn't reach could be called failures, breakdowns, defeats, or losses.

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Independent destinations

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Some destinations can be seen as results that you would like but are not necessarily achieved for the purpose of helping to accomplish another destination or destinations that lie further into the future. Some examples of this are going to concert, giving someone a surprise birthday party, or hanging out with your friends for a while.

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Dependent destinations

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In contrast, other destinations are clearly in service to another down-the-road destination. For example, in order to serve a meal to your family, you need to go shopping first. Or, in order to get a loan, you need to develop a financial statement for the potential lender. These dependent destinations can get quite granular and numerous. How far you break them down or not would depend on how helpful that might be for various purposes: "Now I am pressing the 'p' key so then I can press the 'r' key, so then I can press the 'e' key on my way to typing in the word "pressing" so that I can finish this sentence so that I can finish this link in my website about the 4Ds so that I can...."

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Foundational dependent destinations

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Other destinations may involve creating an environment from which you can more easily enjoy your life and get other things done. Some examples are moving out of your parent's place and into your own apartment or home, getting a new job which will provide more enjoyable challenges and an opportunity to earn more money, or organizing your computer desktop.

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Remedial destinations

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Other destinations may constitute returning to a previous condition which is more preferable than your current one, like getting back together with your spouse or getting over the flu.

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Maintenance destinations

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Still other destinations involve maintaining a certain desirable status quo, like keeping your car in good repair or maintaining your fitness level.

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Are your priorities upside down?

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Many of us, by default, hold our destinations as primary, giving little thought or priority to our delights, directions, and drives.

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This reversal of priorities plays havoc with our integrity, especially our Now-Next Integrity.

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A flow and integration of ease, joy, and accomplish occurs when when maintaining a top-down priority of delights first, then directions, then drives, and finally destinations.

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Our delights inform our directions which inform our drives which finally inform our destinations.

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This supports a life that works almost seamlessly because we are prioritizing process first.

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