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Process First
Life choices: thousands per day
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Our decision-making guidelines, whether conscious or default, are shaped by a set of often unexamined priorities. These choices collectively form the design, process, and outcomes of our lives, ultimately determining our life's quality.
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Priorities we use in making life choices
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These priorities are crucial in determining the quality of our life. Among them, the relationship between process and results stands out as the most impactful.
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Results First
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The priority that most of us make decisions from, whether agreeably or unagreeably, and is sourced by the civil war between Now and Next, is driven by the thoughts, "accomplish more," "be more productive," and "I'll get my reward in the future." I call this priority Results First.
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Major problems of Results First
This priority has several major problems:
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In making decisions, we're likely to forget that the ultimate purpose of life is happiness, not just in the future, but also now and along the way.
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We're likely to over-commit and over-promise to get more results faster, damaging the Personal Ecology of our lives and making it difficult for everything to work together smoothly without a lot of breakdowns and stress.
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We're likely to neglect to adequately consider what our Now wants and needs by ensuring that our life processes are enjoyable. This also makes it more likely that we won't get the results we want. We don't design the processes to ensure long-term sustainability.
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We're likely to be less reliable in keeping our promises to ourselves and others.
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We're more likely to indulge in toxic expectations, creating upsets for ourselves and others, and hamstringing our ability to get results.
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In messing up our own lives, we negatively affect the lives of others and our relationships with them.
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Process First
The alternative to this priority is Process First.
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Understanding and implementing this shift in priority is a fundamental life hack. It's a change that will affect all areas of your life, sourcing your choices and building your life from a new bedrock that's durable and robust.
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Major benefits
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This priority has several major benefits:
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It ends the civil war between your Now and Next.
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It aligns easily with the possibility of maximizing happiness and avoiding suffering, both for now and the future, both for yourself and others.
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It's easy and natural to maintain adequate buffers, especially time buffers, and to under-promise both to yourself and others so that you are more reliable to yourself and others.
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You're more likely to achieve the results you're going for because you've paid attention to the process of getting those results.
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The issues of procrastination, lack of persistence, frustration, impatience, and laziness disappear.
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Your tendency to indulge in toxic expectations disappears.
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You're able to create and maintain a Personal Ecology that, not only allows for all aspects of your life to be more easily flow together but also is sustainable long-term.
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See What's the full idea of process first?
See Lifestyle first; results second​​​