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Hint: you still must take the actions (the "medicine") to get the change you want.
Anger and blame: how to dissolve anger and blame
Bad habits: how to break bad habits
Being yourself: how to be yourself with others
Boredom: how to always be interested
Boundaries: how to create and maintain good boundaries with others
Confidence: simple keys to more self-confidence
Conflicts with others: how to resolve any conflict
Day-by-day loving life: how to make your life a work of art
Defensiveness: how to let go of defensiveness
Depression: how to dissolve depression
Direction of your life: how to find your life direction
Eating healthfully: how to eat healthfully consistently
Exercising: how to exercise persistently
Frustrations: how to end frustrations
Good habits: how to create new good habits
Gratitude: how to feel grateful all the time
Guilty: how to dissolve guilt or self-blame
Hurt or betrayed: how to dissolve hurt or feeling betrayed
Indecisive: how to end indecisiveness
Job satisfaction: how to love your job
Lazy: how to end laziness
Lonely: how to never be lonely again
Making requests: how to easily make requests of another
Men: what do they want from women (more than sex)
“No” to others: how to say “no” to another
Organized: how to get organized and stay that way
Overwhelmed: how to dissolve overwhelm
Perfectionism: how to end your perfectionism
Persistence: how to easily be persistent
Pressured: how to dissolve stress or feeling pressured
Procrastination: how to never procrastinate again
Promises: how to make them and keep them
Quitting: how to know when to quit and feel good about it
Relationship problems: how to resolve any issue with another
Romance problems: how to get him/her, enjoy him/her, and keep him/her
Time enough for everything: how to always have enough time
Unhappy or sad: how to dissolve unhappiness or sadness
Victim: how to step outside of being a victim
Women: what do they want from men (more than money)
ALL PROBLEMS
Abandoned: fear of being abandoned (left all alone, deserted, cast off, neglected, forgotten)
Abandoned: fear of abandoning another
Accepting: how to accept a circumstance (allow, embrace, face it, grant being to, show respect to, unresist, be curious about, be understanding of)
Accepting: how to accept another
Accepting: when another doesn't accept you
Accommodating: too accommodating
Accommodating: not accommodating enough
Adaptable: how to be more adaptable
Addiction: caffeine
Addiction: chocolate
Addiction: cocaine
Addiction: codependency
Addiction: coffee
Addiction: computer games
Addiction: computers and Internet
Addiction: dealing with another’s addiction
Addiction: drinking
Addiction: exercising
Addiction: food
Addiction: gambling
Addiction: illegal drugs
Addiction: legal drugs
Addiction: pornography
Addiction: sex
Addiction: shopping
Addiction: sleeping
Addiction: sleeping pills
Addiction: smoking (how to stop smoking)
Addiction: soft drinks
Addiction: television
Addiction: to getting things done
Addiction: tobacco
Addiction: working
Admiring: how to feel and show admiration to another
Admiring: how to feel and show admiration to yourself
Affectionate: how to feel and show affection
Agreement: how to get agreement
Agreement: how to deal with disagreement
Alcohol: alcohol problem that another around you has
Alcohol: alcohol problem you have
Alienated: another feeling alienated from you
Alienated: feeling alienated from another or the world
Alienated: feeling alienated from yourself
Anger: another getting angry with you
Anger: easily get angry with others
Annoyed: another getting annoyed with you
Annoyed: easily annoyed by another
Annoyed: easily annoyed for circumstances
Anxious: how to respond to another’s anxiety
Anxious: undoing your own anxiety
Apology: difficulty in giving an apology
Apology: difficulty in refraining from apologizing
Apology: difficulty in accepting another’s apology
Appreciate: how to feel and show appreciation to another
Appreciate: how to feel and show appreciation to yourself
Apprehensive: often apprehensive
Approachable: how to be approachable
Approval: difficulty in receiving and believing approval from another
Approval: difficulty in showing approval to another
Approval: wanting approval too much from another
Arguing: dealing with another trying to argue with you
Arguing: how to reduce or eliminate your own tendency to argumentative
Arrogance: dealing with another’s arrogance
Arrogance: how to become less arrogant
Assertive: not assertive enough
Assertive: too assertive
Attacking: tendency to attach another
Attaching: feeling attacked by another
Attention: wanting more attention from another
Attention: wanting to give attention to another
Attention: not wanting attention from another
Attention: wanting more attention from others
Authentic: how to be authentic (sincere)
Authentic: difficulty in speaking openly and being authentic
Authentic: how to speak authentically
Authentic: getting in trouble by being too authentic
Authoritative: another being authoritative with you
Authoritative: you being authoritative with another
Avoid: another avoiding you
Avoid: avoiding looking at something you need to look at
Avoid: avoiding taking action about something
Avoid: avoiding talking with another about something
Avoid: you avoiding another
Awkward: another feeling awkward with you
Awkward: you feeling awkward with another
Bad: issues about thinking you’re a bad person
Bad: thinking another person is bad
Balanced: how to feel balanced (unbalanced)
Balanced: how to have a balanced life
Believing: believing your not good enough (thoughts)
Believing: believing your not smart enough
Believing: believing your not strong enough
Believing: believing your not excellent enough
Believing: believing your not good looking enough
Believing: believing your not (you fill in the blank)
Belittled: feeling belittled by another
Belittled: belittling another
Betrayed: feeling betrayed by another
Betrayed: you betraying another
Bitching: bitching at another
Bitching: feeling another is bitching at you
Blame: blaming (you fill in the blank)
Blame: blaming a country
Blame: blaming a specific group of people (for example, professors)
Blame: blaming another
Blame: blaming another for blaming you
Blame: blaming bureaucracy
Blame: blaming business
Blame: blaming conservatives
Blame: blaming gays, lesbians, etc
Blame: blaming kids
Blame: blaming liberals
Blame: blaming libertarians
Blame: blaming men
Blame: blaming some ethnic group
Blame: blaming taxes
Blame: blaming the government
Blame: blaming women
Blame: blaming your parents
Blindsided: feeling blindsided
Boredom: feeling that life is boring
Boredom: feeling that something is boring
Boredom: feeling that another is boring
Bossy: you occur as bossy to another
Bossy: another occurs as bossy to you
Boundaries: how to maintain good boundaries with another
Boundaries: how to respond then another steps over your boundary
Bragging: another bragging to you (showing off)
Bragging: the issue of bragging to another
Buffers: the importance of creating and maintaining buffers
Buffers: how to create buffers
Buffers: how to create time buffers
Buffers: how to create money buffers
Buffers: how to create health buffers
Buffers: how to create relationship buffers
Bullied: feeling bullied by another
Bullied: you bullying another
Burden: another feeling burdened by you
Burden: you feeling burdened by another
Burden: you feeling burdened by responsibility and life
Business: another getting in your business
Business: you getting in God’s business
Business: you getting in another’s business
Business: you not attending to your own business
Busy: being too busy
Busy: not being busy enough
Busy: thinking you should be more busy
Calm: how to be calm (serene)
Calm: how to calm down another
Career: how to find a suitable career
Career: can’t make money at the career you want
Career: not happy with your career
Careful: another thinking you are too careful (wary)
Careful: another thinking you not careful enough
Careful: you being too careful
Careful: you not being careful enough
Careless: another thinking you are careless
Careless: you being careless
Caring: another thinking you care too much
Caring: another thinking you don’t care enough
Caring: you caring too much
Caring: you not caring enough
Charisma: how to have charisma
Child: how to be childlike (youthful)
Children: how to resolve a conflict with a child
Children: how to choose whether or not to have children
Children: showing respect to children
Children: creating and maintaining good boundaries with children
Children: how to take care of yourself while taking care of your children
Children: how to resolve conflicts about how to raise children
Children: how to solve your child’s problems
Children: how to deal with money with children
Children: how to deal with how children eat
Children: how to deal with your child’s sexuality
Children: how to deal with your child’s rebelliousness
Choice: what choice do you have?
Choice: what choice did you have?
Choice: what is choice?
Choice: how to make the best choices?
Clarity: how to be clear (not confused)
Clean: another not clean enough for you
Clean: not keeping things or yourself clean enough for another
Clean: not keeping things or yourself clean enough for yourself
Clean: you being too clean
Clean: another being too clean
Clutter: not having things organized and neat (and discarded)
Comfortable: another feeling uncomfortable with you
Comfortable: you feeling too comfortable
Comfortable: you feeling uncomfortable
Comfortable: your unwillingness to feel uncomfortable
Commitment: fear of commitment
Commitment: fear of revoking a commitment
Communicate: fear of not communicating well (communication, talking, listening, communicative)
Communicate: how to communicate well
Communicate: avoiding communication with another (others)
Communicate: another (others) avoiding communication with you
Comparing: comparing yourself negatively with another
Comparing: comparing yourself positively with another
Comparing: fear of another comparing you negatively
Compassion: not feeling compassion for another
Compassion: not having compassion for yourself
Complaining: another complaining to you (whining, nagging, bitching)
Complaining: you complaining about yourself
Complaining: complaining to another about others
Complaining: issues with listening to or handling complaints
Complaining: others complaining behind your back
Complete, incomplete: feeling incomplete with someone
Complete, incomplete: felling incomplete about something
Complete, incomplete: how to get complete with someone
Complete, incomplete: how to get complete about something
Compulsive: acting compulsively
Condemn: condemning another
Condemn: feeling condemned by another
Condemn: condemning yourself
Condescending: feeling condescending towards another
Condescending: feeling another being condescending towards you
Confidence: how to be confident (assured, self-confident)
Confidence: lack of confidence
Confidence: too much confidence
Conflict: you having a conflict with another (disagreement, dispute, argument, arguing)
Conflict: feeling a conflict within yourself
Conflict: another feeling a conflict with you
Confused: another feeling confused by you
Confused: feeling confused
Connected: how to feel connected with another (others)
Connected: how to feel connected with yourself
Conscientious: how to be more conscientious
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Context: how to create an empowering context
Context: how to recognize a disempowering context
Control: feeling controlled or attempted control by another
Control: you controlling another
Control: dealing with a controlling person
Conversation: don’t know how to end a conversation with another (talking)
Conversation: don’t know how to enjoy conversation with another
Conversation: don’t know how to start a conversation with another
Conversation: how to have a mutually enjoyable conversation
Cooperative: how to be cooperative with another
Cooperative: how to get another to cooperate with you
Courage: how to have more courage (brave, bold, fearless, hutzpah)
Courage: how to recognize opportunities for choosing courage
Coward: seeing yourself as a coward
Coward: seeing another as a coward
Craving: how to deal with a craving
Creative: how to be more creative
Critical: feeling criticized by another (criticism, blame, anger, accuse, attack)
Critical: letting go of criticalness of another
Crushed: feeling crushed
Crying: crying too much
Crying: not knowing how to cry
Curious: how to create curiosity
Dangerous: feeling that the world is dangerous/unsafe
Decision: not making good decisions
Decision: how to make good decisions
Decision: being indecisive
Decision: how to decide among too many choices
Defensive: another feeling defensive with you
Defensive: feeling defensive with another
Delighted: how to feel delighted
Demanding: another demanding of you
Demanding: demanding of another
Demanding: demanding of yourself
Depression: another being depressed around you
Depression: you feeling depressed
Deprived: feeling deprived
Desolate: feeling desolate
Desperate: feeling desperate
Devastated: feeling devastated
Devoted: how to feel and show devotion to another
Devoted: how to feel and show devotion to yourself
Different: fear of others thinking you’re different
Different: critical that another is different
Difficult: feeling that life is difficult
Difficult: feeling that something is difficult
Difficult: feeling that another is difficult (difficult person)
Dignity: how to have dignity
Direction: fear that you’re going in the wrong direction
Direction: lacking life direction
Direction: not following your life direction
Direction: not knowing how to discover your life direction
Disagreement: disagreement about courses of action with another
Disagreement: disagreement about different opinions with another
Disagreement: disagreement about the end result with another
Disappointment: fear of another’s disappointment
Disappointment: feeling disappointed in another
Disapproval: avoiding disapproval of others too much
Disapproval: disapproving of another
Disapproval: fear of disapproval
Disconnected: feeling disconnected from another
Disconnected: feeling disconnected from others
Disconnected: feeling disconnected from life
Disconnected: feeling disconnected from yourself
Disdain: another disdaining you
Disdain: feeling disdain for another
Disgusted: feeling disgusted with another
Disgusted: feeling disgusted with yourself
Dislike: disliking another
Dislike: disliking yourself
Dislike: feeling disliked by another
Disoriented: feeling disoriented
Disrespect: disrespecting another
Disrespect: disrespecting yourself
Disrespect: feeling disrespected by another
Disrespect: feeling disrespected by others
Divorce: how to create a great divorce
Divorce: feeling guilty towards your spouse for (the idea of) getting a divorced
Divorce: feeling guilty regarding your children for (the idea of) getting divorced
Divorce: frightened of getting a divorce
Divorce: how to know whether or not to get a divorce
Divorce: thinking another (or others) will think you’re bad for getting a divorce
Divorce: thinking that getting a divorce is bad or you’re a bad person for getting a divorce
Divorce: thinking you’re a bad parent if you get divorced
Divorce: worrying about property settlement if you get divorced
Divorce: worrying about your children if you get divorced
Divorce: worrying about your survival if you get divorced
Divorce: worrying that God will blame you if you get divorced
Divorce: worried about the process of getting divorced
Divorce: feeling too sorry for your spouse to get a divorce
Dominated: dominating another
Dominated: feeling dominated by another
Downhearted: feeling downhearted
Drinking: how to stop drinking
Drugs: how to stop drugs
Dull: feeling that life is dull
Dull: feeling that you are dull
Dull: feeling that another is dull
Dying: fear of another dying
Dying: fear of dying yourself
Dying: fear of death
Easy going: how to be easy going (carefree)
Easy: how to make things easy
Eating: eating carbohydrates
Eating: eating disorder
Eating: eating junk foods
Eating: eating meat
Eating: eating poorly
Eating: eating sugar
Eating: eating too much
Eating: not eating enough
Eating: not eating healthfully
Eating: don’t have enough time to eat right
Eating: don’t eat well when eating with others
Eating: don’t know how to manage eating well with my family
Eating: don’t know how to get my family to eat well
Eating: don’t have enough money to eat well
Effective: upset that another is not effective
Effective: want/need to be more effective
Effective: should be more effective
Efficient: upset that another is not efficient
Efficient: want/need to be more efficient
Efficient: should be more efficient
Embarrassed: embarrassing another
Embarrassed: feeling embarrassed by another
Embarrassed: fear of embarrassment
Emotional: another too emotional around you
Emotional: easily affected by another’s emotions or thoughts
Emotional: moody
Emotional: overly sensitive
Empathetic: how to be more empathetic
Empathetic: how to be less empathetic
Encourage: how to encourage another
Encourage: how to encourage yourself
Energy: lack of energy (vigor, enthusiasm, vitality)
Energy: too much energy
Enough: how to have enough (adequate)
Enthusiasm: lack of enthusiasm
Envy: another envying you
Envy: envying another
Euphoric: how to be euphoric (ecstatic)
Excitement: lack of excitement
Excitement: too excited
Exercising: getting my-now and my-next on the same page with exercising
Exercising: not exercising well or enough
Exercising: not knowing how to enjoy exercise
Exercising: not knowing the best exercise
Exercising: don’t have enough time for exercise
Exercising: don’t have enough money to exercise well
Expectations: expectations for myself not being met
Expectations: expectations of another not being met
Expectations: expectations for my life not being met
Expectations: expectations for an event/activity not being met
Fair: feeling that you are treated unfairly by another
Fair: you treating another unfairly
Fair: feeling that you are treated unfairly by others
Fair: feeling that others are treated unfairly
Fair: feeling that life is unfair
Fair: thinking that life or others should be fair
Fault: another fault finding with you
Fault: fault finding in another
Fault: fault finding in yourself
Fear: fear of not looking good (worry, anxious, nervous, apprehensive)
Fear: fear of (you fill in the blank, for example "the dark")
Fear: fear of doing the “undoing fear” process
Fear: fear of fear
Fear: fear of not feeling fear
Fear: fear of another’s fear of you
Fear: fear of others’ fear
Fear: fear of doctors (dentists, hospitals)
Firing: difficulty in firing someone (laying another off)
Firing: difficulty in getting fired (you getting laid off)
Firing: fear of getting fired
Fired: fear of another getting fired
Fired: angry about getting fired
Flexible: how to be flexible
Flexible: how to be more flexible
Focus: lack of focus
Focus: so focused that you lose track of other things
Foolhardy: being foolhardy
Foolish: fear of appearing silly or foolish to another
Foolish: thinking another is foolish
Forgive: how to forgive another (accept, understand)
Forgive: how to get another to forgive you
Forgive: how to be okay if another does not forgive you
Fragile: feeling you are fragile
Fragile: feeling another is fragile
Fragile: feeling life is fragile
Free: how to feel free
Freedom: feeling lack of freedom
Freedom: feeling too much freedom
Freedom: feeling another has too much freedom
Frenzied: feeling frenzied
Frenzied: feeling another is frenzied
Friends: don’t know how to keep friends
Friends: don’t know how to make friends
Friends: lack of friends
Friends: too shy to make friends
Friends: have too many friends
Friends: don’t know how to have good friends
Friends: don’t know how to get close with friends
Friends: feeling taken advantage of by friends
Frowning: how to stop frowning
Frustration: another feeling frustrated with you
Frustration: feeling frustrated with another
Frustration: frustrated with yourself
Frustration: feeling frustrated with a task
Funny: how to be funny
Generous: how to be generous (giving)
Gentle: how to feel and show gentleness to another
Gentle: how to feel and show gentleness to yourself
Ghosts: fear of ghosts
Giving up: giving up too easily
Giving up: not giving up when you should
Giving up: not knowing when to give up
Giving up: not knowing when to keep going
Giving up: giving up too soon
Giving up: giving up too late
Giving up: blaming myself for giving up
Giving up: blaming another for giving up
Giving up: fear of being blamed for giving up
Giving up: thinking that people should not give up so easily
Glaring: glaring at another
Garing: feeling glared out by another or others
Global warming: feeling frightened of global warming
Global warming: angry at others for not being concerned about global warming
Goals: not knowing how to enjoy the process of going for the goals
Goals: not persistent in pursuing goals
Goals: not setting goals
Goals: not knowing how to set goals
Goals: fear of setting goals
Goals: fear of not setting goals
Goals: setting goals that are not big enough
Goals: setting goals that are too big
Golden handcuffs: how to escape or have freedom from golden handcuffs
Golden handcuffs: how to avoid golden handcuffs
Good will: how to have good will towards others
Gossip: gossiping about another
Gossip: others gossiping about you
Gossip: another gossiping about others
Graceful: how to be more graceful
Gracious: how to feel and be gracious with another
Grateful: how to feel and show gratitude to another
Grateful: how to feel and show gratitude to yourself
Grief: feeling grief (bereavement)
Grief: another feeling grief
Guarded: feeling guarded with another
Guarded: feeling guarded with others
Guarded: feeling guarded with life
Guarded: another guarded with you
Guilt: another feeling guilty with regard to you (another blaming themselves)
Guilt: feeling guilted by another (another blaming you)
Guilt: feeling guilty that you are better off than another or others (you blaming yourself)
Guilt: feeling guilty (feeling blamed)
Guilt: feeling guilty about or feeling blamed for (you fill in the blank)
Gun violence: fear of gun violence
Habit: another cursing with you, using bad words
Habit: another freeloading on you
Habit: another gambling
Habit: another littering
Habit: another’s marihuana use
Habit: how to break a bad habit
Habit: chewing with mouth open
Habit: cursing, using bad words with another
Habit: eavesdropping
Habit: exaggerating
Habit: excess use of over the counter medicines
Habit: excessive throat clearing
Habit: fidgeting
Habit: fighting
Habit: flaking out
Habit: freeloading on others
Habit: gambling
Habit: grinding your teeth
Habit: how to create a good habit
Habit: insomnia
Habit: littering
Habit: physical violence
Habit: your marijuana use
Habit: another’s marijuana use
Hard: feeling something is hard (difficult)
Hard: feeling that life is hard
Harmonious: how to create harmony
Hate: feeling hated by another (hostility)
Hate: feeling hateful; hating another
Hate: self-hate
Health: how to get and stay in great health
Health: how and what to eat for great health
Health: what supplements to take for great health
Health: how to exercise for great health
Health: how to create a mind for great health
Heartbroken: having a broken heart
Heaven: feeling/believing you must be a good person to get into heaven
Heaven: feeling/believing that you must repent to get into heaven
Heaven: feeling/believing another (others) must be a good person to get into heaven
Hell: feeling/believing you must avoid doing bad things to stay out of hell
Hell: feeling/believing that you must repent to stay out of hell
Hell: feeling/believing another (others) must avoid doing bad things to stay out of hell
Helpful: how other can be helpful to you
Helpful: how to help others
Hesitant: hesitating
Holidays/Vacations: how to have great holidays
Holidays/Vacations: