Wisdom of knowing you're powerless

The wisdom of knowing that you’re powerless 

My Chinese friend was torn apart because of her parent's bickering and bad-mouthing each other. 

For years she has tried to support her parents in treating each other more civilly.

With no effect. She felt so upset about this. 

I said to her, “Your parents will always fight.

You have no power to do anything about that.

You are powerless.

It's not your business, anyway… it's their business.

They're like two dogs fighting, with each thinking the other dog is the 'bad dog.' 

Enjoy watching the fight, like a soap opera.

Or, if you don't want to watch the soap opera,

create and maintain some boundaries to take care of yourself.

Stay in your own business, not theirs.

And remember that you're powerless to change them.” 

She replied, "Oh, my God, you're right. It's so easy. It's not my business." 

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See also:

You are powerless

Government is like the weather

Gift of listening to others powerlessly

Byron Katie resources

Unfighting with reality

Undoing shoulds: stories

How long before you give up?

Are you messing in another's business?

Stay out of God's business