The surprising secret of how to have great relationships
Answer: make sure you're always being selfish. "Come on, you got to be kidding!" Hear me out.
I am one of the most persistent people you will ever meet, but I don't have persistence. "Having persistence" is doing persistence the hard way. Having persistence means finding ways to get your Now to tolerate the process that may lead towards what your Next wants. It is the perpetuation of the war between Now and Next, with your Next somehow getting the consistent upper hand in being able to dominate your Now.
Do you have persistence to eat?
Example: if you're "persistent" in eating whenever you're hungry, we don't call that "having persistent to eat regularly." We call it doing what you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. The common idea of having persistence is that you somehow get yourself to stay in action even when you don't feel like, not when you're enjoying it.
You will find two reasons that I might be the most persistent person you'd ever be likely to meet.
Persistence flows naturally and easily out of Now/Next integrity
First, almost paradoxically, one reason I am so persistent is that I have no trouble giving up when I should give up. In fact, I feel proud of myself for choosing courage to give up, if that what it takes. I'm a bit partial to the W.C. Fields quote, "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There's no point in being a damn fool about it." Just because you start something doesn't necessarily mean you should finish it, especially when unanticipated circumstances arise or you gain new knowledge that obsoletes your original reason for the commitment. You've doubtless heard the aphorism, "The eraser is mankind's greatest invention." Go to Giving Up to get the full scoop on this much-needed tool to always have available.
Secondly, and even more importantly, if my Next has an idea or interest in going for some result, my first task (before any commitment is made) is to find a way for Dwight-Now to enjoy the process or processes that will be needed for Dwight-Next to get what he wants. I ensure that Dwight-Now and Dwight-Next have integrity regarding the intention under consideration. More specifically, I use one or more of the tools in the NNI toolkit to create that integrity.
Restoring integrity if it starts to drop out
Moreover, if I am in the middle of a practice or project and I notice Dwight-Now starting to resist or lose enthusiasm, I immediately return to putting integrity back in place between Now and Next (see The Primo Habit). To read an revetting (at least to me!) story about how this approach saved my book, go to How I finished by 700-page book.
Create Now/Next integrity and persistence becomes a piece of cake.