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Victimhood: all the good people do it
Do you complain about the complainers?
Do you hate it when others complain and whine?
Do you complain (even silently) about those who complain about you?
Are you a long-suffering good guy in your relationship with others?
Are you negative about other people’s negativity?
Do you complain about yourself when you find yourself complaining?
Are you a positive person but cannot be positive about the people who are negative?
If so, then you are a victim of the victims.
In the world of right and wrong, you must be a victim (otherwise you would be a bad guy)
Being a victim is the most sought after position on earth (although few would call it that)! In any transaction that involves any discomfort, fear, or pain on our part, we yearn to be the good guy, and find someone else (occasionally, a part of ourselves: our Next blaming our Now or our Others blaming our Oneself) to be the bad guy.
Do you think you shouldn't be a victim?
Many of us, recognizing that something is amiss in being a victim, have made being a victim wrong,
thereby perpetuating our entrapment inside the victim box! We have become sophisticated victims,
limiting our indulgence as victims to our complaint about others who are more obviously gluttonous in their status as victims.
Sleuthing out victimhood
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Show me righteousness and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me a good guy and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me resentment and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me rebelliousness and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me guilt and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me blame and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who is defensive and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me a feeling of betrayal and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me complaining and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me a perfectionist and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me resignation and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who believes things should be different than the way they are and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me procrastination and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me nagging and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who is worrying and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me frustration and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me regret or remorse and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who is stressed and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me being disappointed in yourself and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who is trying to prove something and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me a rescuer and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me impatience and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who thinks they are lazy and I will show you victimhood.
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Show someone who doesn't know how to give up and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me someone who thinks they're not good enough and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me an optimist who sets themselves up for disappointment and I will show you victimhood.
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Show me a pessimist who sets themselves up for not taking risks and I will show you victimhood.
Choosing courage is the antidote for victimhood
What actions are you not taking?
What requests are you not making?
When are you not saying "no" when you need to say "no"?
What partnership conversations are you not initiating?
How often do you forget that your #1 job is to take care of yourself?
How often do you neglect to take 100% responsibility in all your relationships with others?
When are you not giving up when it would best to give up?
How often are you not interrupting your defensive behavior?
How often are you indulging in expectations?
How often do you trying to control that which cannot be controlled?
How often do you not choose courage to insist on a partnership conversation between your Now and your Next whenever your Next is blaming your Now?
How often do you not choose courage to insist on a partnership conversation between your Oneself and your Others whenever your Others is blaming your Oneself?
Are you staying out of God's business and other people's business?
What boundaries are you not setting and maintaining?
What stands for yourself have you not made?